Technology that is meant to make life easier, like location sharing, smart home devices and shared accounts, can also be turned into a tool of control. Tech-facilitated abuse is a growing and increasingly recognised form of family violence, and it can continue well after a relationship has ended.
What tech-facilitated abuse can look like
- Location tracking through phone apps, shared family location features, or a hidden tracker placed in a bag or car
- Spyware installed on a phone or computer to monitor messages, calls or browsing
- Controlling smart home devices (locks, cameras, thermostats) remotely to intimidate or monitor
- Using shared accounts, cloud photo libraries or joint subscriptions to monitor activity
- Repeated unwanted contact, harassment or impersonation through social media
Why it is hard to recognise
Much of this technology is genuinely useful in a healthy relationship, which is exactly what makes misuse of it so hard to spot. A partner insisting on location sharing "for safety," or knowing details you never shared with them, can feel confusing rather than obviously threatening, especially early on.
Practical steps if you are concerned
- Be cautious about disconnecting devices or deleting apps suddenly if you suspect monitoring - this can alert the other person and escalate risk. A specialist service can help you plan this safely.
- Check which accounts, calendars or location features are shared, and who has access.
- Use a device the other person has never had access to (a library computer, a trusted friend's phone) to research support or make contact with services.
- Report harassment or impersonation to the platform, and to the eSafety Commissioner if it continues.
Where to get help
1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) has specific guidance on technology safety planning, and can help you think through safe next steps without tipping off someone who may be monitoring your devices. If you are in immediate danger, call 000.
How Nhanya Foundation can help
Nhanya Foundation supports women, children and families affected by family violence with practical, everyday support. If you would like to talk something through, contact us.
